How do I stop comparing myself to ‘neurotypical’ peers?

Clinicians help people move away from constant comparison by first normalizing that the instinct to measure oneself against peers is a universal human tendency, especially in productivity‑driven cultures. Instead of treating comparison as a personal flaw, they explore what the comparison is actually signaling such as fears about falling behind, perfectionism, internalized expectations, or the inconsistent productivity patterns common in ADHD. Therapy then shifts the reference point from other people’s timelines to a person’s own values, history, and growth, while challenging the illusion that everyone has the same resources, neurotype, or life circumstances. Clinicians also teach emotional‑regulation strategies to interrupt comparison spirals and help patients define success on their own terms, so their goals reflect who they are rather than external pressure.